Negative Talk
"I'll never meet someone."
"I hate that outfit on me."
I can't do that."
Ever find yourself speaking negative comments about yourself? I can't remember the first time I spoke negatively. I can tell you that in the past few years I continue to self sabotage myself with negative comments.
Friends and family are quick to point out negative comments like the ones above. Just the other day my sister, her friend and I were at dinner and they were both talking about their significant others. Without hesitation I stated " I will never get find someone and get married" and my sisters quick response was "their is a lid for every pot."
Why are we so hard one ourselves? What makes our minds consume negative thoughts? Is it just me? Sometimes I can catch myself but often I don't. As the words flow out of my mouth more and more I feel that I start to believe them. That isn't how I want to live. I can be positive with friends, family, colleagues, etc...but with myself it's a whole other ball game. How can I get out of my own head. How can I make the conscious decision to speak positive about myself to myself?
A therapist once told me I should right down 3 positive things I did each day for two full weeks. I never followed through. Maybe that is the start that I need.
I am worth fighting for. I will one day find someone. If I don't try how will I know if I can or can not achieve something?
This quote says it all:
"I hate that outfit on me."
I can't do that."
Ever find yourself speaking negative comments about yourself? I can't remember the first time I spoke negatively. I can tell you that in the past few years I continue to self sabotage myself with negative comments.
Friends and family are quick to point out negative comments like the ones above. Just the other day my sister, her friend and I were at dinner and they were both talking about their significant others. Without hesitation I stated " I will never get find someone and get married" and my sisters quick response was "their is a lid for every pot."
Why are we so hard one ourselves? What makes our minds consume negative thoughts? Is it just me? Sometimes I can catch myself but often I don't. As the words flow out of my mouth more and more I feel that I start to believe them. That isn't how I want to live. I can be positive with friends, family, colleagues, etc...but with myself it's a whole other ball game. How can I get out of my own head. How can I make the conscious decision to speak positive about myself to myself?
A therapist once told me I should right down 3 positive things I did each day for two full weeks. I never followed through. Maybe that is the start that I need.
I am worth fighting for. I will one day find someone. If I don't try how will I know if I can or can not achieve something?
This quote says it all:
XoXo,
Tracy
I love how this post ended - you ARE worth fighting for! You just have to fully believe you'll find what you're looking for. Do things that boost your confidence and make you happy...and find friends who support and love you. That's what has worked for me :) You are wonderful, I hope you know that!
ReplyDeleteSounds cliche but I don't think you can be happy with anyone else until you're happy with yourself. After my painful divorce, it took me a while to figure out who I was, what I wanted, and what would make me happy. I learned to enjoy my own company so much that once someone who was right for me came along, I was able to enter the relationship feeling confident and not putting insane pressure on the relationship . Take time for you, have an amazing time on your own. And when the right guy comes along, you'll be in the right space for a wonderful relationship. Don't go looking for him. Spend time looking for the happy you! Sending love!
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